A Piece of Advice I Gave Myself, That Made My Young Adult Life Much Easier

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Agree to Disagree

I just don’t want to… I said.

Don’t be so naive. The world isn’t all rainbows and sunshine. You’ll waste your college degree if you do this. My dad answered.

I was almost at the end of college. Just a month or two and I would be graduating. It should have been a stressful, yet exciting period. To me, it felt different.

It was stressful, yet not exciting at all. For the past couple of years, I had been fighting with myself. My motivation to finish college was lacking and I wanted to drop out so that I could pursue a career as a writer.

It was time I shared this with my parents. Which was the hardest part. What was I gonna say?

Making a Tough Call

I had been thinking about it for a long time and talked with friends about it. It wasn’t a good idea to drop out. I was so close to finishing college, and it didn’t take much effort. What I decided was that I wouldn’t find a job after graduation. I wasn’t about to go into a 9 to 5 job doing something that I didn’t enjoy.

That’s what I wanted to share with my parents. That the past 4 years of college, which were supposed to lead me to a secure job, weren’t gonna be used for that. It was the hardest thing I had to do for the entirety of my time in college. To tell my parents that I wasn’t gonna pursue a path they wanted me to pursue.

I think a lot of young adults struggle with this moment. To share their dreams with their parents. Now some parents are supportive of this sudden change. Others aren’t, because they too are scared.

It’s not the decision whether or not we want to pursue our dreams that’s the hardest part about being young. It’s telling the people we love that we are about to make a decision that they don’t agree with that’s the hardest part.

The thing is, we as young adults, know there are plenty of possibilities out there if we work hard for it. We know that we have to make this choice because we are young and should try things. It’s part of life, isn’t it? It’s not the decision of whether or not we want to pursue our dreams that’s the hardest part about being young. It’s telling the people we love that we are about to make a decision that they don’t agree with that’s the hardest part.

It was time for me to say it. To share what I was going to do after college. To say the least, it was a tough call. I was scared. Scared of the confrontation between me and my parents. I knew they were gonna disagree with me, and get angry.

That was the hardest part. To accept that some decisions I would make for my life weren’t gonna be supported by those I love.

I did make that decision and openly shared with my parents that I wasn’t gonna make the decision they would want me to make. We had a fight. We didn’t come to an agreement. A lot of anger and tears were spilled in those days. But finally, I gave myself a piece of advice that changed everything for me.

To be young means to learn to make your own decisions. More importantly to find acceptance with the disagreement others have for those decisions.

It’s Your Call Will You Accept It?

To be young means to learn to make your own decisions. More importantly to find acceptance with the disagreement others have for those decisions.

I think that’s the most important piece of advice I gave myself as a young adult. I will carry it with me for the rest of my life.

I used to avoid confrontations by not making my own decision and following the advice of others. I didn’t want to create a conflict between me and those I loved. But sooner or later we will all understand that conflict and confrontations are inevitable. What’s more important for us as young adults isn’t to make decisions that others accept, but to learn to accept that others will not always agree with our decisions.

What I learned from the confrontations with my parents is that we both want the same. We just see it differently. We all want to do what makes us happy, we all want to live secure lives, but what we do to live such a life differs from person to person.

It’s easy to avoid confrontations, but that won’t help us move on in life. We need to follow our own life’s path. Only we can know what’s the right decision to make. It will mean some people might get upset, and angry with you. It’s nothing to blame them for. We don’t need to get angry with them in return, that’s fighting fire with fire.

If we make a decision from the heart sooner or later the people who disagreed with your decision, will see that it was the right call to make.

All we should do is understand that it’s okay for people to disagree with our decision. That they might get angry, and that there will be a confrontation. Yet if we make that decision from the heart sooner or later these people will see that it was the right call to make.

And it is your call, and your call alone to make. So choose what’s right for you. Follow your path in life, knowing that it will create some confrontations and friction. Or will you avoid confrontation seeing where that path leads you? In both cases, the most important thing is that you can find acceptance with it. So that either decision won’t influence the joy that we can experience in life.

For today we live, we can fall in love with that life every single day. So that we can make the most of it.

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