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The monster in the cupboard

Jawning Pandabear
19:00 | July 5, 2020

The demon in your cupboard

What we can learn from Monster Inc.

Hi beautiful soul, I got a beautiful new inspiration today. Hope you enjoy it!

Movies are packed with lessons for us to take from them. So I wanted to make this simpler for you. In this weeks story I am gonna break down what we can learn from the Disney movie Monster Inc. 

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There is a lot we can learn from art. Especially movies. It would be a waste if we wouldn’t use the knowledge that is hidden in movies. Especially Disney movies. Come on who doesn’t like Disney movies? As a kid you love them! I did at least. I almost watched a Disney movie every week. Especially the movie Ratatouille was one of my all-time favorites. As well as Robin Hood. Man, I have seen those movies about twenty times. That does say a lot because nowadays I only watch a movie once. Only if it is an extraordinary movie do I consider watching it twice. For your info that only happened on Robin William movies and Will Smith movies. The only movies I have seen multiple times throughout my life are Disney movies. I’ve started watching Disney movies again now I am older. The pacing might be a little slow and the jokes are cheesy but still, you go back to that nostalgia. Not only that but you start to see the deeper meaning behind those movies. 

It is incredible how makers and writers have woven in these deep meanings without the movie getting too serious. For kids, these movies are pure fun and for us, they can still be a lot of fun. More than fun, we can learn from them. With this series or topic, I want to dive deeper into books, because that is obvious. A large portion of the books is meant for knowledge and wisdom. Now movies and other forms of art on the other hand are mostly used for entertainment reasons. I just couldn’t help but wonder why we can’t learn from these too. So I want to start this new topic on what we can learn from art. Starting with this amazing movie, you have probably all seen as a kid.

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The Plot

Monster Inc. The movie. I do not want to go into depth on the storyline of the movie. That’s is the fun of watching it after all. So here is a short recap. Monster Inc. Is a company that fetches energy for the monster world through scaring kids and capturing their screams. The monsters in this factory are called ‘scarers’ and they are the base of this foundation without them the world would not have power. Now Mike and Sulley are the two hero’s we follow in this movie. Of course, a movie can’t be a movie without a problem. Now the problem is a kid that just isn’t scared. She loves hugging Sulley and thinks of him as a big fluffy blue-haired cat. Yup, she thinks that. She is a kid so forgive her. Sulley can not seem to make her scared. She grabs onto him and ends up in the monster world. They end up becoming friends after a lot of chaotic scenes that, as a kid, were quite stressful. As an adult, they aren’t. Or are they? Okay, I will not hide it, I felt a little tense when going through all these chaotic scenes. Maybe that is because I hate chaos. But anyways the kid ends up becoming friends with Mik and Sulley and shows them that making kids laugh produces way more energy than making them scream. Hmm okay, now I kinda told the complete plot so sorry for the spoilers. I still recommend you watch the movie. It’s just way to much fun to rewatch old movies and look at them from a different perspective. 

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Hug your monsters

Disney movies are always packed with deeper, hidden meanings. They are jam-packed with jokes and great storylines as well as a lot of chaos. As a kid, this is too much to take in so you filter out the deeper meaning after all you are a kid that only cares about moving objects on a screen that looks fluffy yet scary. As an adult, you can look at these movies and see a completely different dimension. The kid freaking hugs her monster!! Wait for what? I would never have hugged the monster underneath my bed or that was hidden within my closet? Would you? Now, this little girl in the movie is just straight up fearless and she goes straight to Sulley. Holding on to him and hugging him. She calls him a big furry cat. Now that is what I call some amazing mindset. Why?

Well, fear is a reoccurring thing throughout our lives. As really small kids we already experience fear. In our nightmares or the useful fear like not jumping out of a tree. This fear is completely useful because you don’t want to break your damn ankles. As we get older we are kinda told to fear more. Our moms and dads care so much for us that they want to protect us no matter what. That means they try to protect you from harm that has been done to them. So if you are failing in school they push you to go harder because they have heard or experienced what will happen if you don’t have a degree and end up in the gutter. Now that fear of not making enough to pay your clothes, food, and the house comes from their love for you. They simply want to protect you from harm. But as a small kid, you don’t have this fear. You don’t even understand what money means in this world. Let alone what a diploma is. That comes with the years. As you grow older your parents want to keep protecting you from potential harms. So you start to develop more fears. Fears of not monsters underneath your bed so to say. There are many examples of this. You probably thought of one already. For me, this is the fear of not succeeding with this brand. This isn’t born within my heart. No this is born from the world around me telling me to just pursue a nine to five job. There is nothing wrong with that. I am not here to tell you what right and what’s wrong. Just think of that fear.

That fear is represented by Sulley in the movie. It is the monster that hides within your wardrobe. He comes out once in a while to scare you. The kid on the other hand could be you. Now it could be you. It probably isn’t right now. If that is the kid stop reading you already made it and all I am gonna say next is a waste of time for you. Now that kid could be you. Fearless. Fearless of the monster Sulley is. She thinks he is cute. What better metaphor for loving your demons do you want to have. Okay so in grown-up language what does it mean. Sulley is your fear, and the kid is yours. Fearlessness. Sulley has grown larger and larger over the years because of many reasons. Parenting, the new, society in general, the school system, etc. All of these enlarge your fear of the world that is coming. Now the kid is your heart. The fearless heart. That doesn’t fear anything but rather always loves it. Your heart wants to run up to fear and hug it. Play hide and seek with it. But most of all want to become friends with it so they can come to a better solution. 

You see Sulley in the movie is at first a monster. The kid is fearless so she goes and hugs him. They end up chasing one another and after a lot of breakdowns and stress they end up discovering a solution to their problem. The world requires a lot of power and the power company is struggling to keep up with that demand. Now the kid and Sulley together discover that when Sulley, instead of making the kid scared, makes her laugh, the energy levels are way higher. This means that both the monsters and the kids are happy. That is what I call a great happily ever after. 

Your, happy ever after

You probably think, well this is a Disney movie, everything is possible within that. Yes to a certain degree. Of course, we can’t hug our demons and monsters. We can’t get the energy of scream. At least I hope not because that would be awful. Yet we can learn that loving your monsters just like that little girl in the movies helps us get to a solution. Leading us to a better life. Now think about that. Think about how you can make friends and love your fear. Wouldn’t that be a great life? Wouldn’t you live happily ever after just like in all those Disney movies?

I hope you liked this and learned a new perspective on the world. I would love to help more people by improving themselves and providing them with new perspectives. Now you can help me with that. If you like this and want to share it for me that would mean a lot to me. As well as subscribe to the email list or follow me on Instagram. For now thanks so much for reading or listening. Hope you like it. Don’t forget to grow and experience more of life. Remember that Today You Live!

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Grab a chair and sit

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19:00 | June 28, 2020

Grab a chair and sit

A new way on how to understanding and controlling emotions

Hi beautiful soul, I got a beautiful new inspiration today. Hope you enjoy it!

Emotions are weird things. They trick us into doing things we don’t want. As well as make us scared or angry. Yet they are part of this human experience and there is something we can learn from them. Controlling emotions might be something you want to learn, but I can tell you controlling them won’t solve anything. It will only make things worse. You don’t want to cage a wild monkey. The chair method is one that might just help you understand your emotions better. It is simple and easy to understand.

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Your emotions are weird things. Almost like little rascals running around wild in your head. My favorite analogy is with our closest relatives, the monkeys. Monkeys are wild, obnoxious, loud, and all over the place. They scream at one another then suddenly decide to climb up a tree and swing on some branch. Then go down again and smack their rival in the face. After which a fight starts and more loud noises are produced and chaos is everywhere. Still, I’ve always loved monkeys. They are weird, unpredictable, funny, and act the same as we do in a lot of ways. 

A few weeks back I was at the zoo. On my own, with my camera to take some photos of animals. I just love to photograph animals, it makes me relax and slow down to their speed. Now the monkeys are always interesting to watch and I am not the only one thinking that. There is a crowd leaning on the fence almost all the time. Watching them, laughing when they do silly things and trying to get their kids to stop crying. These animals are always interesting to watch, because they aren’t that lazy as let’s say, the lions. These are hunting animals who rest a lot of the day and then only ones or twice a day go out and hunt. In the zoo they can’t of course so, they are resting almost the entire day. Now the monkeys move throughout the entire day. There is always something to see. Always something to do or try. That is why I think they are the perfect symbolism for our emotions. 

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The obnoxious monkey

Your brain is just like a monkey. It’s not something new, a lot of people have heard this analogy. Yet never understood how they could use it. Controlling your emotions is something we like. We would love to take control of our emotions just so we can be productive and energetic at work, feel the love with our partner, happiness with friends, and pumped when exercising. Yet a lot of the time the coin ends up on the other side. Making us stressed at work, therefore annoyed with our partner, unpleasant with friends and too lazy to exercise. So we seek a way to control our emotions so the coin always falls on the right side. 

We suppress them and try to tell ourselves that we should be happy. Confirmation in front of the mirror, awkward smiling, and addictive behaviors are just a few of the things we do to change how we feel. We all want to live a happier life after all. The key here is with the monkeys. Yes, we can learn from our ancestors. No, we shouldn’t run around like crazy, swinging on branches and smacking one another in the face to show our strength. No, we can learn from them by understanding their behavior and seeing the link with our minds. Monkeys don’t care. They run around all the time and are all over the place. Except when they sleep or are fed. Then they are perfectly relaxed, peeling their fruits, eating nuts or plants. They are fully focused on the food because they have to focus on how to get to the food first. They need to peel off the banana peel. Open up the nuts or find a way to get ants out of an ant hole. 

Your emotions are just like these monkeys. All over the place, loud, obnoxious, and in your face. If something triggers them they smack you in the face to let you know they are there. Then a few minutes later it is occupied with food. Another moment you feel in love with someone. Which is quickly followed by pain because she or he declined your invitation to a diner. So the cycle goes on. One after the other emotion arises throughout the day, week, month, year, and eventually your entire life. You can’t get rid of them. Just the same as we should not get rid of all monkeys on the planet. That would, one: be crude, and two: be disastrous for the environments they live in. If you put it this way, it suddenly isn’t all that hard to understand why we can’t control or get rid of our emotions. Isn’t it? Just a simple comparison between monkeys and your emotions can do wonders. That’s also a part of the brain, understanding things. The only way a human brain can make sense of things is through comparison to what it already knows. Monkeys work the same way. The copy one another to learn new skills or behavior. So could you. 

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Grab a chair and sit down

Even though you might now understand how your emotions work, you still don’t understand how to work with them. It still is uncomfortable to have a lack of energy when you have to work or feel angry with your loved one. After all, you don’t want to be angry with them. It is just something that happened and you can’t control that. The first thing to understand is that by grabbing a monkey and forcefully holding it will only make the monkey go wilder. We have all seen the videos of monkeys in small cages banging the bars or running around. That’s something we should try to avoid. To not put our emotions into cages. Trying to hold them in. If you put a monkey in a cage to calm them down, they will only scream louder. Your emotions work the same way. By putting them in a cage, so you can control them, you only make the problem worse. They start to get louder and in the end, they will burst out or brake the cage. Now what? You are overwhelmed and by that, you feel horrible. 

That’s why I want to give you some advice on this. Grab a chair. One that is large enough for your monkey to sit on. Of course, this is figurative. There is no need to grab a real chair if there ain’t a real monkey in your house. The chair is meant for your monkey mind. For your emotions running everywhere. It will help to get your emotions in ‘control’. Now place that chair somewhere in your head where you think it looks nice and stylish. Allow your emotions, as they arise, to sit on it. Once they sit down let them sit for as long as they like. As well as let them leave the moment they want to leave. Just as allowing them to come when they want to come. Just keep in mind that you can just handle one at a time. After all, there is one chair to sit on. After a while, the emotions get used to this. Sitting there and just being. They don’t need to run around anymore to get your attention. They start to quiet down, slow down, and feel loved and recognized. That is all you have to do if you want to control your emotions. 

Controlling your emotions isn’t about deciding when you want to feel something. It is about allowing the emotions that arise to just be there. To not have to scream for your attention. You’ll see that emotions like anger, sadness, or fear will leave quite soon. All they needed is someone to give them attention. Someone that allowed them to be themselves. You wouldn’t like to be ignored or forced to change just because someone doesn’t like you right? So don’t do the same to your emotions. It’s sad for them. They just want to warn you or express their worries about you. Then you can just tell them it is all okay and keep going. You will see that happiness will enter the room and sit on the chair instead. That doesn’t mean the others will never come back. They just don’t stay that long. 

Pushing out anger

Now for the real-life stuff, what does that mean? Okay for example you get angry with someone. Instead of trying to control your anger and push it away, allow it to be there with you. No that doesn’t mean you should hit the other, again like the monkey smacks the other in the face. No, it just means allowing the anger to be there. The hardest part here is to not act upon the anger. Your best option is to simply tell the other you are angry and that you need some time to process it. That’s all. Than anger feels heard and after a while, it leaves. It will only stay a while if it has already been pushed away many times. Because then the anger nestled within you, rooting itself as firm as possible. Hoping to get some attention. Yet you never gave it to him and pushed him away. Sad anger. He only wanted to be heard.

Two emotions one chair

Just one more example. You feel distracted and unfocused. Yet you have a deadline in the upcoming week. Whether that is for school or work doesn’t matter. There is a deadline just around the corner. Now that deadline kinda scares you and makes you feel fearful. That is the first emotion to allow in. Allow it to sit on the chair and give it some attention. Just before letting in distraction. You see what I normally did with these cases was both let in fear and distraction at the very same time. Only there was just one chair so they were fighting over it. So my emotions would go from fear for the deadline to unfocused because I felt fear, to fear again, and so on. Allowing two emotions in your brain at the same time can become stressful. Yet it sometimes happens and that is just the way life is. I want you to understand that all I just said is something that won’t be perfect. It never will. You will not always be so focused on the chair method. You at times forget it and push some emotions away or allow multiple to come in at ones. That’s just fine. Don’t blame yourself for it, because blame is an emotion as well. Just start over. Grab the chair and make your emotions sit down again. There is no one golden ticket to this. It needs practice and understanding that you can’t be perfect. Just remember that you are doing fine, that you are doing your best to make all your emotions feel loved. That you are doing your best to control them. 

So next time you realize two emotions are in at the same time. Ask one to just wait outside for a minute. Then focus on one emotion and when that emotion is fulfilled and leaves. You can let in the other one. If you feel distracted and fearful at the same time. First, allow fear to sit on the chair. Let is speak and comfort it. Then let distraction come into the room. It will see that the thing that made him come in the first place, which was fear, has left. So there is no need for him to be there and he almost instantly leaves. Then you are left with yourself and you can focus on your deadline again. 

These things take some time. Some emotions take longer to leave and that is all completely fine. It’s more about understanding these emotions and comforting them instead of trying to go through them as quickly as possible. After all, emotions are what make us human. That connects us and they are here for us to learn from. 

If you liked hearing about emotions, it is something I am really into you should for sure keep on eye on the blog. I will be sharing more about emotions as long as I keep writing. You can keep up with the blog by either subscribing to the email list, which automatically gives you a free gratitude calendar or you can follow me over on Instagram or Pinterest. I’ll let you know when a new post is up over there. I want to thank you for reading or listening and if you love it feel free to share it with others. For now, thank you don’t forget to grow and experience life. Remember that Today You Lived!

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Getting everything you desire

19:00 | June 21, 2020

Getting everything you desire

How gratitude can change your life

Hi beautiful soul, I got a beautiful new inspiration today. Hope you enjoy it!

Welcome to this weeks article. It is all about how you can have everything. About being grateful for what you have and it is about Mario Kart. Who doesn’t like Mario Kart anyways. If you are just interested in the tips, skip to the end. If you are interested in a great story then listen on. I would really appreciate if you’d follow or subscribe to this podcast or my news letter so you can be part of this community. Thank you so much for reading, now let’s begin with the story. Enjoy! 

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I was a little kid. About 8 years old. Going to school, learning, and waiting for the lunch break. Then rushing home eating my lunch and hopefully play a game of Mario Kart on the Wii. That was the good stuff. That white shiny box with the blue light just next to the disc slot. Man, that is the wet dream of every little kid. I still remember when I got it. Not the Wii but Mario Kart. It was the best day of the year. Well, at least I remember it that way. I had been waiting for it, for weeks. Visualizing having it and winning race after race. Spending the fifteen to thirty minutes I had to wait for my dad in the electronic store playing it in the game section. Racing other kids, and winning all of it. Not all the time of course because some kids were showing off and beating me. That game had been on my mind for a long time and my parents promised me I’ll get it if I got my swimming certificate. So I did. I worked for it. I was scared to go underwater and didn’t like swimming at about 6 meters to go through a big plastic hole in the water. Anyways I did it for Mario Kart. I needed to have that game so badly. As I swam through the chlorine-filled water making my eyes tear up I could see the white cover with Mario in his tomato red cart on the front. Wow, it’s been years and I can still see that cover if I close my eyes. That’s how much I looked at it. Spending hours on end watching videos of others playing it. I knew all the short cuts before even owning the game. I knew which character was the best and how to get it. So after a few weeks of wishing, waiting and training I swam through that loop. Finishing my swimming exams and getting out of the water waiting to receive my gift. Of course, I couldn’t get it right away because I was soaked. If I got it right then I would certainly drop it and soak it in water. Not that good of an idea. So I was kinda mad, but luckily my parents were smarter than I was. 

Once I got home I had to sit down on the couch and… There it was. A small rectangular box in colorful wrapping. The wrapping didn’t matter. I tore it off and as if a blazing white light had just hit my face I blinked and opened my mouth. YESSS I screamed. I finally have it. At that time the Wii was still in the living room so I tore off the plastic wrap, pushed the white plastic thingy in the middle that held the disc, and popped it out. I ran to the Wii and placed the disc in the slot. The blue light started fading in and out signaling that the game was loading. My mom turned the tv on and grabbed a large chair for me. I sat in the middle of the room for the entire afternoon playing until we had diner together. I don’t know how many hours it was. It could have only been half an hour but it felt like at least five times as much. I was so happy getting that single game and felt grateful for it for a long time. I still remember that with the game came an amazing steering wheel in which you could place the controller. I felt like a real racer at that moment. I played it for a long time, maybe a bit too long. The enjoyment of playing Mario Kart just never faded away. As I grew older I stopped liking playing these kinds of games. I moved on to war and tactical games. With that came buying new copies each time. So I bought a lot of different games. I stopped visualizing what I wanted. By then I earned enough money to get what I wanted. So I bought it. I didn’t have to wait for anything. This took away part of the fun. I didn’t feel as grateful anymore. It just started feeling normal. I was happy about buying something new. It just never got me back to that state of bliss I was in as a kid. Something was missing. So I wanted to buy one after the other more expensive present for myself. In no shape or form would I be able to get it. These things got more and more expensive. Ranging from 500 to 1000 euros. Well, that’s a bummer. I wanted to get the new Playstation at that time. The Wii had turned old and not many cool games to play on it. So I worked more at jobs I didn’t really like just to get the new Playstation. Now things got a lot different then. I started to get spoiled. Asking my mom and dad to give me money to buy it. They wouldn’t at first of course. I already had a gaming console so why buy another one. It was way too expensive, besides exams were coming up and I had to focus. So I wasn’t allowed to buy it. Still, I persisted, watching videos, and trying to convince my dad to help me buy it. Then a deal for the holiday season came up. It was right on the front of the leaflets, luring me in. I grabbed the leaflet and ran to my dad to show it to him. I knew I didn’t have enough money but maybe he could help me out. It was not because I asked it so politely, but because I had been asking for it for weeks that he finally gave in. On one condition, that I had to pass the exams first before opening it. So then the terror began. We bought the Playstation and my dad took it upstairs so I couldn’t play with it until my exams were finished. It was horrible knowing something you craved so badly was upstairs just waiting for you. Until I passed my exams and I finally got the Playstation. My happiness skyrocketed. I played all summer long and have been using it for all the years from that day. 

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The adult world

Now I am older my parents have little authority over how I spend my money. After all, I am 21 years old, old enough to make these decisions myself. So I started buying more. Always craving the newest game, phone, or tech. Never infesting money into myself, but always into things. I never understood what the meaning of waiting was. In both examples I just shared with you, I was out of the roof happy. The kind of happy where you see a kid bouncing up and down like a dog not being able to control its happiness. That is the power of waiting. It builds up your happiness and gratitude for that thing you desire so desperately. I’ve entered the adult world with a mindset that just buying something would bring me joy. Now, this is a mindset that is regularly advertised for. You see it all over your social media feeds. There are advertisements on almost everything you could imagine. If you google about the newest MacBook you are most likely to get an add in the next couple of hours. The specific targeting is kinda creepy, but such a great tool to reach the right individuals. I’ve heard a lot of people hating on this. Saying that advertisement is overdone, that it is creepy and should be banned. Now about a year back, I would agree with those of you who think that way. Yet I no longer do. There is a shift that happened within me. Seeing that advertisement is a perfect way to get your product out to the people that want to buy it. The problem here is not with the ads but with ourselves. 

Over the past couple of months, I’ve stopped looking at products that much. I occasionally buy something new but only after deliberately looking for the right thing to buy. This means not buying something cheap but going back to that little kid that was patiently waiting and working towards getting what he wanted. Researching what I want to get. Comparing different items and then choosing the right one. Even though it costs 10 times as much as before. Because I reduced my time looking at products and started to focus more on improving myself, the ads started to change as well. All I see now is ads on how to get rich quickly, which of course isn’t what I want. Quick has become a highly used word in an ad. We want to get rich, successful, and finish school quickly. Everything we want is quick. Now at times, there is nothing wrong with this, because we have limited time on this earth. So a small feeling of urgency is needed to keep pushing yourself a little further. But because we want to do it quickly we forget one essential choice. 

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Do you want this?

So advertisement is trying to manipulate you into buying stuff. The easiest way to do this is to make you buy their product quickly. Why? Because you don’t think about it. If you think about it you are most likely to not buy it or buy it at a later point. This is not what they want. These companies want you to buy their service or product now. So quick means no thinking and that results in easy money for them. With this quick advertising, we forget to ask ourselves: Do you want that? Is this service or product really what you want? Is it gonna bring you existential happiness or growth? If you don’t think about what you are buying into, you will most likely not be happy as a dog when you get it. You will love it at first but after a week or so you’ll forget about it. It will fall into normality. That is the trap ads want you to fall in. Thinking that happiness comes from buying more. Surprise it will not. It will only make you ungrateful. Which brings more harm to it. It can decrease your mental health significantly, it can lead to debts because you want to buy more without having the money, it can lead to anxiety and persisting trauma’s from the past. These aren’t your fluffy problems. These are real-life problems leading you into a darker mental space. That is a place I do not wish you to go to. So stay away from it. Don’t hate the advertisements they only do their job. You see the only cure to this is gratitude.

Gratitude is a really strong practice. It will get you into a state of mind where you do not need things instantly. It doesn’t mean you can not get anything new. Not at all. It opens you up to get more than you first thought you could get. This post isn’t named: “How you can have everything” for no reason. I hate click bate so I do not want to lure you in. Nothing is worse than spending at least ten minutes of your precious time to read through all of this article to find yourself with nothing of help. Now it might be a bit far fetch to say this, but I think gratitude is the bedrock from which we can build a new and better world. A mindset of hate is not gonna help us anymore. So hating the advertisers won’t help you. They might stop but in the end, only new advertisements will pop up on your feed. The only way out of this is being thankful for all you have when you see an ad. If you open Instagram and click through the stories every other story will be followed up by an ad. If that ad is about a new bracelet you can buy for just 39,99, don’t buy it, be thankful for the bracelets you already have. Or for not owning one at all, but being thankful for even having a wrist that you could potentially wear it around. I can not stretch it enough how important this is. If you in the first place are thankful for what you have you are most likely to not buy into these ads. You think first and then decide if you want to buy into it. Patience is key here. I am thankful for my parents, for making me work for things I wanted. You see they gave me a lot of things that I wanted. This wasn’t to spoil me, but because we had the wealth to do so. I am incredibly grateful for that. Might they have given me what I wanted, when I wanted it, this story could have turned out completely different. That way I would have been spoiled. Right now I see the value of working for something before getting it. Deserving something is way more fulfilling than just getting it for no reason. I swam my ass off in that water and enjoyed it way more because I knew the reward I was gonna get for it. Same goes for the exams, I worked way harder and passed all of those exams. That patience and work made me way more grateful for receiving these gifts. Not only that, but it also made me more grateful for buying things myself. Saving up for something to buy it after a few months is way more satisfying than spending all your hard-earned money in one month just to get it now. 

So ask yourself do you want it? If the answer is yes, then work for it. Make it happen, but allow some time to pass. Don’t buy things out of a rush, it is way more fulfilling to wait. 

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How to get everything you want:

1. Decide what you want

This is obvious if you don’t know what you want. How are you going to get it? This is like running a race without knowing how far it is. You might be running a sprint or a marathon so if you burn all your energy in the first 100 meters and you end up running a marathon, you are fucked. You will not get to your destination. 

2. Feel the energy of your desire

Feel your deep desire, the longing within you to get something, or reach a goal of yours. After all wanting something comes from a sensation within our body. Most of the time located in your chest, a kind of warm feeling that makes you feel pumped and excited. Feel that, because it is such a beautiful feeling. 

3. Visualize your goal

Whether you want a new game or want to achieve big success, visualize what that looks like for you. See the cover of the game, see the gameplay, see the amount of money you will make, or the car you’ll own. Most importantly visualize when you’ll have it. Make that realistic for yourself. At all times you should believe that you can get it. So if you want a million dollars by tomorrow you are most likely not gonna get it. Now if you want a million dollars by the end of the year that could be a bit more realistic. Just think of what you want and when you want it, and make it believable to yourself. 

4. You will not get there

No just kidding. These thoughts will pop up in your head. Making you believe that you are not going to get it. Release those thoughts and replace them with the belief that you can achieve it. 

5. Believe in your power

Believe in your power to get it. This means being grateful for yourself and trusting yourself. Simple as that. 

6. Get off your ass

Million-dollar business, aren’t build from watching Netflix. It involves work. I didn’t get Mario Kart because of sitting on my lazy ass doing nothing. No, I trained myself to earn that swimming certificate. This is the step that separates the ‘doers’ from the ‘wanters’. Maybe a few have listened or read al the way to this point. But this is the big exit point. There are only a few that are ready to take action on their goals. That’s completely okay, everyone has their path through life. Trust the process, remember, patience my friend.  

7. The final step

Trust and patience. If you have set your goal, know when you’ll achieve it, and then take action to get there, you’ll have it. Trust it to happen. Trust blindly like a kid. I trusted that I would get my Playstation, and then worked for it and patiently wait. At times that patience is really hard and you want to tare the box open so desperate and just set it up. Instead of doing that, I went upstairs and looked at it. Just sit there and look at it, knowing that one day it will be mine. Do the same for your goal. Look at it and know that it will be yours one day.

These are seven steps you can do right now. They won’t take long. Just a few seconds. Remember that with every step there is something to be grateful for. If you ain’t grateful for what you’ll have, you won’t receive what you want. You will just not appreciate it if you get it anyways. So remember to always be grateful, then you’ll have everything you ever want. 

If it is hard to keep track of that gratitude, I have a simple solution for you. I created a monthly gratitude calendar you can simply download by subscribing to the email list. I will not only share the calendar with you but also a few more steps on how to make it work. As well as weekly stories that help you grow even more!

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How to get out of a creative block

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19:00 | June 14, 2020

The blank canvas is your worst enemy

How to get out of a creative block

Hi beautiful soul, I got a beautiful new inspiration today. Hope you enjoy it!

As a creator you will face creative blocks. It’s completely normal, but how can you get out of it? Well there is just one simple solution. Read it in this story. 

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Yet again nothing comes out. Really. Nothing. A blank canvas is your worst enemy. It daunts you and tears you apart. For the last two weeks, this blank canvas has been scaring me. It has bullied me and made me feel like shit. Yes, a blank canvas can do that to you. Especially this week. I am at the beginning of writing a book. I’ve written three chapters so far, yet the forth is killing me. It is that hurdle on the road you can’t get over. At the same time, your ego is laughing at you. It feels a bit like a hurdle runner that stops midway, right in front of a hurdle. Looking at it and not knowing what to do. Even when it already ran half the race. He already crossed three other hurdles. The crowd is confused and out of that confusion, it starts to laugh at him. That crowd, that’s the ego. That ego is necessary to win the race because it cheers you on when you feel great. Yet if you feel absolutely shit, it laughs at you. Boo’s you and makes you feel even less than you first felt. The runner is all of us trying to finish something. Trying to get something done. There are no exceptions to this because we will all face hurdles in our crafts. Whether you are a smith, an accountant, or a painter. None of these are excluded. 

It does happen more often with creative jobs. The ones that work for themselves and need to come up with new ideas themselves. Why is it this way? Why do you come across more hurdles as you do it yourself? That isn’t that hard. Go back to that hurdle runner. If he were to run for his financing nine to five jobs the hurdles he takes will be the same every time. His work is the same almost every day. At least most of it. That doesn’t make him any less than the creatives. Far from actually. These people have come to understand the power of habit. At first, their hurdles feel rough. That’s the initial setup but as they come to know the height of every hurdle they will continue to be the same over and over again. Now you might start to hate the job and therefore the hurdles become harder again. That is just the way for everyone. Hurdles can be easy but if your mind starts to change and think of them as bad or negative they will become that way. That’s why at times the hurdles you before found easy to jump over are now making you crawl underneath them because you fail to jump over them. 

Artists on the other hand mostly work when they are inspired or motivated. So their hurdles change with each moment. When they feel inspired or motivated their hurdles are small and they can easily step over them. The biggest bullshit of it all is that they even blame motivation and inspiration when they can’t create anything at all. If they are not motivated or inspired, well it is really easy for them to blame the hurdle for being too big. Yet it didn’t change in size. It is just the same as always. Only the running up to the jump has changed. That’s the difference between these two groups. The first runner has a continues speed. He jumps one after the other hurdle. The second runner is dependent on motivation and inspiration to jump the hurdle. That’s why if the motivation lacks his speed will decrease and eventually stumble over the hurdle instead of jumping over it clean and easy. I think blaming motivation and inspiration for that is pure bullshit. Yes, I’ve just said that and probably made a lot of people mad by it. Now I speak of experience, to be precise I’ve blamed motivation and inspiration when I was writing this very story. It is such an easy way to give yourself an excuse to not start creating. 

Dark clouds above mountains
Photo by Daan Uijterwaal

Feeling shit tells you something

Doing something creative isn’t necessarily hard. It is part of us humans. We have been made creative, so we can come up with solutions for the problems we created. It’s a continuous cycle that keeps us busy. For an artist, one of those problems is that they do create out of motivation and inspiration. It is just the way creativity works. Creativity starts from a spark in the brain. Something outside us that triggers us. Whether this is something born from passion, emotion or a problem doesn’t matter. Everyone has their way of creativity. Mine is creativity coming from emotion and problems. I just love solving problems and dealing with emotions. For a friend of mine, this is more born from passion. Creating music because he loves it. The main reason is that creating starts with something inside ourselves that meats the outside world. From there on motivation and inspiration are created. Then it is easy to create. So for beginner artists who just do it for their hobby, it is easy. It feels like they have mastered creativity. That is because they do it whenever they feel motivated. For the more advanced artist, this starts to be a lot more difficult. His intentions have shifted from just creating whenever they feel like, too creating to make a living. Which means you kinda need to become like the nine to five guy working behind his desk. There must be consistency so you can make a consistent living doing what you love. 

That doesn’t mean you should work every day from nine to five, or more. Most of us started doing this because they wanted to feel free in some sort of way. With that freedom comes making choices. These choices are a lot narrower now. You can not choose to work less and still buy a lot. Nor can you choose to buy a lot and at the same time have more free time. That only works for a few people who first started working a lot and made a name in their business and then got paid so much that they didn’t need to work as hard. So being a free creative put you in a position that forces you to make choices. It isn’t that free after all. It all comes down to how you make money so you can keep on living the life you love. That means consistently creating. Creating a painting every week or writing a new book every year. Those are choices you have to make. You can’t just postpone the book for years and expect people to generously donate you some money for postponing it. That would be a lovely life, and I would be a master at postponing my book then. If that would make me money. 

This isn’t reality though, it is a bit more complicated. If you want to make money consistently that means being creative consistently which means being motivated consistently. But being motivated was something we couldn’t force right? It comes whenever it wants. When something on the inside meats something on the outside creating a spark in the brain. Well, there is nothing more bullshit than that. Being creative in that way is just the same as a nine to five job. You need to be consistent with creating. And that does mean consistently feeling shit. I am sorry to disappoint you with that. But feeling shit is part of being creative as well. Maybe even with being human. If you want to create, that does mean that there must be times where you don’t create. Not as in free time where you play video games, no rather times where you do the opposite of creating and you break down. Moments where that blank canvas is your worst enemy. This feels shit. It terrifies you, so you just don’t create when you aren’t inspired or motivated. You place it in a big bag and tie it. Which you place in a big metal box locked with heavy chain locks. Then you place that box in the cupboard and lock it. So you don’t have to be terrified of it getting out. In the end, it will Houdini its way out of that bag, box and cupboard so it can terrify you ones again. Trust me. You just can’t be motivated all the time, and that is something to be incredibly proud of. 

Road into the sun
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Why you can be proud of not being motivated!?

You should be really. From that shitty place, you are in, comes the best of ideas. Really it helps you. This Friday as I sat down to write the initial story for today I felt absolutely shit. No concentration, no motivation, nor inspiration. So I opened my list of ideas and just choose one. That didn’t work out. It felt unnatural and the words felt cliche and overall bad. So I stopped and continued to write on my book. Yet again, that didn’t work out. It just didn’t feel right. So I started to edit some images. Again, yes you guessed it, that didn’t work out either. I felt stuck, and I hadn’t felt that in a long time. My mind felt full of thoughts like there was a thick liquid slowly swallowing it. That was it, a writer’s block and a creative block all at ones. Nothing seemed to work out. Yet I set myself on this goal to post every Sunday and it is finally working out again. So I had to write something. I forced myself through it and continued to write a story. Luckily you don’t have to read it because it is, horrible as fuck. So I decided to quit and let the demotivation take over. I gave in. No that is not the same as giving up, that is completely different. Giving in is going with the flow so you can get out of it. That is the same as running a bad race as a hurdle runner just so you can learn to run better next time. If I would have given up, I would be the hurdle runner who stopped and left the race court. A creative block is nothing more than you resisting to give in. As I was experiencing this creative block I started to google how to get rid of it. 

As every young teenager does, googling all of their problems on YouTube. So I came across a lot of videos that told me how to get rid of it. Writing, journaling, even sitting in front of your screen for as long as you need to until you write one good sentence. That was one of the worst ways of doing it. That was just using brutal force to get to the result. Man, I was astonished by how many different ways of getting rid of that creative block were there. I realized that I had done a lot of these and none of them worked. So I tried something new. Something that felt counter-intuitive and that would only bring me a worse result. 

Doing nothing. Yes, you are right, doing nothing. That doesn’t exist in my vocabulary. It just ain’t there. I always want to be doing something for a purpose. I don’t just play video games, no I play them because they bring me joy. I write because I feel good doing it, it brings me joy and fulfillment. Doing nothing feels like a complete waste of time. Especially, because I don’t know what it will bring. But this was a moment of pure bliss. Really! I just sat down on the hot, black, bouncy trampoline. Feeling the sun on my skin and watching the clouds move by. Forming new shapes every time I looked at them, some even morphing together. For just a few minutes I didn’t think of anything. Not even about my creative block. It felt like nothing was wrong. Like I would just get up after doing it and continue writing again. Of course, it wasn’t that perfect. The stress of not knowing anything to create was still within my body and I could feel it tens up my jaws and limbs. Yet I accepted it fully. Not seeing it as something bad, but rather something to be proud of. It made me feel human. Right at that moment, inspiration struck me again, and within like an hour I wrote this entire story. That’s how powerful motivation and inspiration is. You just need some time doing nothing.

What a simple solution isn’t it? Well, that is what I am all about. I don’t want to bore you with real time-consuming solutions or things that will take you half your day to get out of this rut. I want you to do something and feel results without really forcing them. I am all about that simple way of living. So I could highly recommend you just do freaking nothing. I know that is shit because it feels like you are losing time. But really how many options do you have? Look at a blank screen for a long time, thinking of why you can’t come up with anything, or doing nothing and enjoying it then let inspiration hit you in that boredom. Cause really that doing nothing eventually makes you feel bored quicker than expected. For some that might be two minutes, for another an hour. Still, as an artist that wants to make a living off his craft, you should know the power of doing nothing and making a habit out of it. Don’t blame the motivation for not being there. Blame yourself for not giving the motivation time to arise. So sit back a bit. Relax, do nothing, and well let the motivation and inspiration come to you as you are creating figures in the clouds. 

Door
Photo by Daan Uijterwaal

How can you do this?

Find a spot where you can just sit or lay down. Like your room, outside in the grass, or like me on a trampoline. Try to find something to focus on. The clouds, a light, a candle, maybe just your wall. Try to keep your eyes fixed on it. Then just stay there doing nothing until you feel bored. You know you are bored when it starts to feel awkward. You want to move, grab your phone and do something. Resist that. Resist the temptation of doing anything and simply sit. Then, trust me after a few minutes your mind starts to wander. Allow it to do that. This ain’t a meditation. This is a way to get creative and feel inspired again. When your mind starts to wander you can start to look around, maybe even walk a bit. Just don’t grab your phone, talk to someone, or do something that takes you out of your mind. After some time, depending on your personality, you will come up with an idea. Bam that’s it, you got it! Great job! Now go and create right away. Don’t let that initial spark die out, grab it, and hold on to it. Because you felt like you were wasting your time you now have an insane drive to work. So you will probably finish your creative process quicker than you would normally, you are just straight fire. Feeling fired up and jamming away on your craft. 

That sounds doable, right? It ain’t that hard, just try it. It is a really counterintuitive way but worth the try. Let me know if it worked for you!

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Memories

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20:00     |     oct 14th, 2019

Memories

Herinneringen

Nederlands/English

Ik ga dagelijks door rijen met foto’s. Recht voor mijn ogen zie ik ze verschijnen op mijn scherm en er is best wel iets specials aan deze foto’s. Als ik ze zie, zie ik niet gewoon een foto. Ik zie een omgeving, een moment in de tijd dat vast gezet is en zich nu weer opnieuw afspeelt in mijn gedachte. Ik hoor geluiden, voel texturen en ruik de geuren om me heen. Ik speel deze herinneringen bij elke foto die voorbij komt af. Of de foto’s jaren oud zijn of recent zijn gemaakt ze hebben allemaal een herinnering. Ik herinner elke beweging die ik maakte om deze foto te krijgen en elke prachtige klik die de camera maakte. 

I go through rows and rows of images every day. There right in front of my eyes and there is something special about them. When I see them I don’t just see an image. I say more, way more. I see a scene, a moment in time playing in front of my eyes. I hear the sounds, feel the textures, smell the senses all around me. I play back memories for every single scene I ones shot. I remember every move I had to make to get that shot and I remember the beauty when I heard the camera click. 

Als ik naar beneden keek op mijn lcd scherm en even diep in ademde voelde ik zo’n rilling over mijn lichaam heen gaan alsof je zojuist iets wonderbaarlijks hebt gezien. Dat gevoel zegt genoeg, dan weet ik dat ik deze herinnering nooit ga vergeten. Een foto is niet alleen maar licht voor mij, het is niet zomaar iets wat je uitprint of maar gewoon ophangt. Het is een vorm van kunst die volledig zou moeten worden gevoeld. Gevoeld in de kern van je zijn. Door het zien van een foto zou je terug moeten gaan naar een herinnering. Ik hoop dat mijn foto’s je terug nemen naar een herinnering van jezelf of nog liever een herinnering van mij. Ik probeer mijn herinneringen levendig aan je te tonen. Je hoort, ruikt, voelt en proeft alles in de foto. Het zou egoïstisch van me zijn om deze ervaring alleen voor mezelf te houden.

Looking down at the small lcd screen on the back and breathing in deeply, my body shivering and then I knew I got another one to remember. An image is not just light for me, it isn’t just something you print or look at. It is something that should be fully experienced. Felt within the core of your being. It should take you back to my memory and make you hear, feel, smell and see it too. It would be egocentric for me to only keep these experiences for myself. 

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Foto’s zijn kunst en voor mij een hele speciale vorm van kunst. Ze geven me de kans om verhalen te maken die mensen terug nemen naar dat zelfde moment. Het is een manier geworden om mezelf te uiten, om nieuwe dingen te zien en vooral nieuwe dingen te leren. Om meer te zien dan ik ooit met mijn eigen ogen zou kunnen. De camera is een extensie geworden van mijzelf en een manier om niet alleen de omgeving te zien maar het echt te voelen. Het leid me door een reis waarin ik de pracht van de reis mag vastleggen. Het beweegt me naar nieuwe plekken en zorgt ervoor dat ik hier en nu ben om het juiste verhaal te vinden en te vertellen. Het zorgt ervoor dat ik de juiste compositie vind en om de geluiden die ik hoor vast te leggen in de bewegingen in de foto. Om de dingen die ik voel vast te leggen in texturen en om de geuren vast te leggen in diepte. Een foto is een compositie van alle zintuigen in een moment vast gelegd op een scherm of papier. Het is een prachtig iets om even een momentje uit je dag te nemen en echt goed naar een foto te kijken en je in te beelden hoe het voelde om daar te zijn. 

Images are art and a special way of art for me. They allow me to generate stories and take people to a moment in time. For me it is a way to express myself, to see new things and to learn more. To see more than I could with my bare eyes. My camera has become an extension of me it allows me to not only see the scene but to experience it. It guides me through a journey of capturing this amazing experience. It moves me into places and makes me present of the moment searching for the right story to tell. To make the composition right and capture the sounds I hear in motion. To save the things I feel in textures and to save the senses I smell into depth. An image is a composition of senses a memory saved on a screen or paper. It is a beautiful thing if you can take your time to truly experience an image. 

Klinkt makkelijk maar het word moeilijker en moeilijk voor mijn generatie en de generaties die gaan komen. We vergeten om afbeeldingen te bekijken en ze te voelen. We scrollen en scrollen en missen de verhalen. Klikken en liken elke foto wat het plezier achter buitengewone fotografie weg haalt. Dat is waarom ik je wil laten zien dat beauty overal te vinden is en hoe je deze ervaringen kunt overbrengen. Door je te laten voelen, horen en ruiken wat ik rook op het moment dat ik de foto maakte. Ik probeer hier zo lang ik dat kan aan te werken om jou de beste ervaring te geven als je mijn foto’s (of verhalen) ziet. 

Which is becoming harder and harder for us nowadays. We forget to see pictures and experience them. We scroll and scroll and miss the stories. Clicking and liking which completely takes away the fun of truly extraordinary photography. That’s why I want to show you that beauty is everywhere and show you the ways to convey these experiences. Make you feel, hear and smell these images. I’ll be working on this as long as I can to give you the best experience ever. 

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Herinneringen

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Nederlands/English

Ik ga dagelijks door rijen met foto’s. Recht voor mijn ogen zie ik ze verschijnen op mijn scherm en er is best wel iets specials aan deze foto’s. Als ik ze zie, zie ik niet gewoon een foto. Ik zie een omgeving, een moment in de tijd dat vast gezet is en zich nu weer opnieuw afspeelt in mijn gedachte. Ik hoor geluiden, voel texturen en ruik de geuren om me heen. Ik speel deze herinneringen bij elke foto die voorbij komt af. Of de foto’s jaren oud zijn of recent zijn gemaakt ze hebben allemaal een herinnering. Ik herinner elke beweging die ik maakte om deze foto te krijgen en elke prachtige klik die de camera maakte. 

I go through rows and rows of images every day. There right in front of my eyes and there is something special about them. When I see them I don’t just see an image. I say more, way more. I see a scene, a moment in time playing in front of my eyes. I hear the sounds, feel the textures, smell the senses all around me. I play back memories for every single scene I ones shot. I remember every move I had to make to get that shot and I remember the beauty when I heard the camera click. 

Als ik naar beneden keek op mijn lcd scherm en even diep in ademde voelde ik zo’n rilling over mijn lichaam heen gaan alsof je zojuist iets wonderbaarlijks hebt gezien. Dat gevoel zegt genoeg, dan weet ik dat ik deze herinnering nooit ga vergeten. Een foto is niet alleen maar licht voor mij, het is niet zomaar iets wat je uitprint of maar gewoon ophangt. Het is een vorm van kunst die volledig zou moeten worden gevoeld. Gevoeld in de kern van je zijn. Door het zien van een foto zou je terug moeten gaan naar een herinnering. Ik hoop dat mijn foto’s je terug nemen naar een herinnering van jezelf of nog liever een herinnering van mij. Ik probeer mijn herinneringen levendig aan je te tonen. Je hoort, ruikt, voelt en proeft alles in de foto. Het zou egoïstisch van me zijn om deze ervaring alleen voor mezelf te houden.

Looking down at the small lcd screen on the back and breathing in deeply, my body shivering and then I knew I got another one to remember. An image is not just light for me, it isn’t just something you print or look at. It is something that should be fully experienced. Felt within the core of your being. It should take you back to my memory and make you hear, feel, smell and see it too. It would be egocentric for me to only keep these experiences for myself. 

Foto’s zijn kunst en voor mij een hele speciale vorm van kunst. Ze geven me de kans om verhalen te maken die mensen terug nemen naar dat zelfde moment. Het is een manier geworden om mezelf te uiten, om nieuwe dingen te zien en vooral nieuwe dingen te leren. Om meer te zien dan ik ooit met mijn eigen ogen zou kunnen. De camera is een extensie geworden van mijzelf en een manier om niet alleen de omgeving te zien maar het echt te voelen. Het leid me door een reis waarin ik de pracht van de reis mag vastleggen. Het beweegt me naar nieuwe plekken en zorgt ervoor dat ik hier en nu ben om het juiste verhaal te vinden en te vertellen. Het zorgt ervoor dat ik de juiste compositie vind en om de geluiden die ik hoor vast te leggen in de bewegingen in de foto. Om de dingen die ik voel vast te leggen in texturen en om de geuren vast te leggen in diepte. Een foto is een compositie van alle zintuigen in een moment vast gelegd op een scherm of papier. Het is een prachtig iets om even een momentje uit je dag te nemen en echt goed naar een foto te kijken en je in te beelden hoe het voelde om daar te zijn. 

Images are art and a special way of art for me. They allow me to generate stories and take people to a moment in time. For me it is a way to express myself, to see new things and to learn more. To see more than I could with my bare eyes. My camera has become an extension of me it allows me to not only see the scene but to experience it. It guides me through a journey of capturing this amazing experience. It moves me into places and makes me present of the moment searching for the right story to tell. To make the composition right and capture the sounds I hear in motion. To save the things I feel in textures and to save the senses I smell into depth. An image is a composition of senses a memory saved on a screen or paper. It is a beautiful thing if you can take your time to truly experience an image. 

Klinkt makkelijk maar het word moeilijker en moeilijk voor mijn generatie en de generaties die gaan komen. We vergeten om afbeeldingen te bekijken en ze te voelen. We scrollen en scrollen en missen de verhalen. Klikken en liken elke foto wat het plezier achter buitengewone fotografie weg haalt. Dat is waarom ik je wil laten zien dat beauty overal te vinden is en hoe je deze ervaringen kunt overbrengen. Door je te laten voelen, horen en ruiken wat ik rook op het moment dat ik de foto maakte. Ik probeer hier zo lang ik dat kan aan te werken om jou de beste ervaring te geven als je mijn foto’s (of verhalen) ziet. 

Which is becoming harder and harder for us nowadays. We forget to see pictures and experience them. We scroll and scroll and miss the stories. Clicking and liking which completely takes away the fun of truly extraordinary photography. That’s why I want to show you that beauty is everywhere and show you the ways to convey these experiences. Make you feel, hear and smell these images. I’ll be working on this as long as I can to give you the best experience ever. 

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The power in yourself that’s always there

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A man powerfully punching the ground
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6 min read

19:00     |     Sept 30, 2019

The power within yourself

That is always there

Waar heb jij altijd controle over in je leven? Daarmee bedoel ik echt altijd. Of je nou in bed ligt, ziek bent, aan het sporten bent, werken, zoenen, zingen en ga zo maar door. Waar heb jij controle over? Ik laat je er nog even over na denken. 

There is something in your life which you always have control over. What is it? By that I really mean always. Whether you are in bed, sick, working out, working, kissing, singing etc. What do you have control over? I’ll let you think about it for a while

Ik werk al een aantal jaren bij het bedrijf La Place als weekend hulp. Hier sta ik vooral in de spoel keuken en bij de kassa. Afgelopen weekend merkte ik iets in mezelf wat me al een poosje dwars zat als ik aan het werk was. Terwijl ik de laatste spullen opruimde van de dag merkte ik in mijn lichaam een onbalans. De dag was afgelopen maar ik voelde nog steeds een sterk gevoel van stress en spanning. Mijn ademhaling zat hoog in mijn borst en ik kon mijn handen niet meer stil houden. Toen ik even stil ging staan merkte ik dat mijn hart enorm snel klopte. Ik maakte mijn werk af en ging naar huis. Op de fiets merkte ik dat ik nog steeds niet rustig was. Mijn hart klopte in mijn keel, mijn borst voelde zwaar aan en ik bleef maar praten over onzinnige dingen tegen mijn vriendin. De werkdag was afgelopen maar toch bleef ik enorm onrustig. Waren het de koppen koffie die ik had gehad? Was het de drukte of was ik overprikkelt van alle mensen? Ik wist het niet en toen ik thuis was probeerde ik rustig te worden. Met een diepe zucht plofte ik op de bank met een glas water en keek wat tv. 

I have been working at La Place on the weekends now for a number of years. The main things I do are working in the kitchen and at the cash register. Last weekend I noticed something in myself that had been bothering me for a while when I was working. While I was cleaning up the last things of the day I noticed an imbalance in my body. The day was over but I still felt a strong sense of stress and tension. My breathing was shallow and high up in my chest and I could no longer keep my hands still. When I paused, I noticed that my heart was beating very fast. I finished work and went home. On the bike, I noticed that I couldn’t get myself calmed down. My heart was beating in my throat, my chest felt heavy and I kept talking about stupid things to my girlfriend. The working day was over but I still remained very stressed. Was it the cups of coffee I had? Was it the crowds or was I overwhelmed by all the people? I didn’t know and when I got home I tried to calm down. With a deep sigh, I sat down on the couch with a glass of water and watched some TV.

Het hielp niet. De onrust in mijn lichaam bleef aanhouden en het probleem werd niet opgelost. Misschien zou een lekkere warme douche helpen om me te kalmeren. Na het eten besloot ik daarom om te gaan douche, maar nog steeds geen resultaat. ‘Fucking hell word is rustig’ zei ik tegen mezelf. Natuurlijk werkt dit niet want dit is precies het tegenovergestelde van rustig worden. Dus probeerde ik maar rustig te worden door een klein kwartiertje te gaan mediteren. Alleen focussen op je gedachtes en ze elke keer weer los laten. Ook dat hielp niet, m’n hartslag bleef hoog en de gedachtes in mijn hoofd bleven ratelen. Ik raakte letterlijk overprikkeld door mezelf, en dat is behoorlijk knap want vaak gebeurd het door prikkels van buiten af. Mijn hoofd is soms enorm druk en denkt aan te veel dingen tegelijkertijd en dus dacht ik dat slapen voor nu de enige optie zou zijn. Wat kan het anders zijn. Al wist ik dat dit niet de eerste keer was. Bijna elk weekend heb ik dit na werk. Mijn hart voel ik in mijn keel bonken en mijn lichaam voelt gespannen en druk. Handen kan ik niet stil houden en de gedachtes die ik heb zijn negatief en springen elke 10 seconden over naar een ander onderwerp. 

It didn’t help. The restlessness and anxiety in my body continued and the problem was not solved. Maybe a nice hot shower would help me calm down. So after dinner, I decided to take a shower, but still no results. “Fucking hell calm down would you,” I told myself. Of course, this does not work it will only make the restlessness worse. So I tried to calm down by meditating for fifteen minutes. Just focus on your thoughts and let them go every time. That didn’t help either, my heartbeat remained high and the thoughts in my head kept rattling. I was literally overwhelmed by myself, and that is a special thing because most of the time it is caused through external stimuli. My head is sometimes very busy and I think of too many things at the same time. So, I thought sleeping for now would be the only option. What else can it be? Although I knew this was not the first time. Almost every weekend I get the same mental and physical reaction after work. I feel my heart beat in my throat and my body feels tense and busy. I can’t keep my hands still and the thoughts I have are negative and jump to a different subject every 10 seconds.

Zoals je al kan raden hielp het slapen ook niet. Hoe kan het dat mijn lichaam zelfs na het werken nog onrustig en druk was? Wat kan dat veroorzaken. De hele zondag probeerde ik wat meer op mijn ademhaling te letten maar doordat ik veel dingen te doen had lukte dit het grootste gedeelte van de dag niet. Tot vandaag en daarom upload ik mijn verhaal ook vandaag pas. Vandaag besefte ik mij iets wat mij grip deed krijgen op deze onrust in mijn lichaam. Iets wat er altijd is maar wat nooit langer duurt dan een paar seconden. Zonder dit kunnen we niet leven. Ademen dat is de oplossing voor dit probleem. Ademhalingstechnieken zijn de oplossing voor eigenlijk alles in je lichaam want het is een onderdeel van de benzine waarmee je je lichaam aandrijft. Zonder zuurstof kan je lichaam niet goed functioneren. Ademhaling is de key tot het kalmeren van je lichaam. Het is oprecht een prachtig iets om op te letten. Het beweegt zich van boven naar beneden in je lichaam en zoekt een weg naar buiten via je mond of neus. Tegelijkertijd zoekt het automatisch een weg naar binnen door diezelfde uitgang. Het is een ge-automatiseert systeem waar iedereen grip op kan krijgen. 

As you can guess, sleeping didn’t help either. How could it be possible that my body was still restless and busy even after working? What could have caused this to happen? For the rest of my Sunday, I tried to pay more attention to my breathing, but because I had a lot of things to do, it didn’t work for most of the day. Until today, that’s the reason why this week’s upload is not on a Sunday but on a Monday. Today I realized something that made me get a grip on this restlessness in my body. Something that is always there but that never lasts longer than a few seconds. We cannot live without this. Breathing is the solution to this problem. Breathing techniques are the solution for basically everything in your body because it is part of the gas that you use to power your body. Your body cannot function properly without oxygen. Breathing is the key to soothing your body. It is truly a wonderful thing to feel and simply be conscious of. It moves from top to bottom in your body and looks for a way out through your mouth or nose. At the same time, it automatically searches for a way in through the same exit. It is an automated system that everyone can get a grip on.

Wim Hof is een van de bekendste leraren of guru’s of het gebied van ademhaling. Je kent hem vast wel, de man die meer dan een uur in een ijsbad heeft gezeten zonder dat zijn lichaamstemperatuur daalde. De man die in shorts de Mount Everest beklom. Hij ja, een beer van een vent die een meester is in het besturen van zijn ademhaling. Hij kan de meest ongelofelijke dingen in zijn lichaam te bereiken door alleen verschillende manieren van ademhaling te gebruiken. Ik wilde dit ook eens proberen en daarom heb ik een hele simpele ademhalingstechniek geprobeerd. 30 keer diep in en uit ademen door de mond en na de 30ste uitademingen mijn adem vasthouden. Terwijl ik dit deed voelde ik mijn hele lichaam tintelen, ik werd een soort van high en kon vervolgens bijna 2.5 minuut mijn adem in houden. Toen ik dit drie keer achter elkaar had gedaan was mijn hart weer rustig. Het klopte op een normaal tempo en mijn ademhaling was van hoog in mijn borst gezakt naar laag in mijn buik. Is ademhaling dan echt de key om met alles om te gaan. 

Wim Hof ​​is one of the best-known teachers or gurus in the field of breath control. You probably know him, the man who has spent more than an hour in an ice bath without his body temperature dropping. The man who climbed Mount Everest in shorts. Yeah, that’s him, a magnificent man who is a master at controlling his breathing. He can achieve the most incredible things in his body by using nothing but different ways of breathing. I also wanted to try this and that is why I tried a very simple breathing technique. 30 deep breaths in and out through the mouth and hold my breath after the 30th exhalations. While I was doing this I felt my whole body tingling, I became kind of high and could hold my breath for almost 2.5 minutes. When I had done this three times in a row my heart was calm again. It was beating at a normal pace and my breathing had dropped from up high in my chest too low down in my stomach. Is breathing really the key to dealing with everything.

Heel eerlijk gezegd weet ik dat nog niet, ik denk het wel maar zeker weten nog niet. De adem is enorm krachtig en kan heel veel bereiken in je lichaam en dat is wat ik er zo mooi aan vind. Het komt en gaat en gebeurt automatisch. Het voelt gewoon terwijl het eigenlijk een buiten gewoon mechanisme is van verschillende spieren, zenuwen, cellen en organen die samen je hele lichaam voeden met zuurstof. Hoe meer zuurstof in het lichaam hoe energieker je je voelt en hoe rustiger het lichaam reageert op stress of boosheid. De adem is oprecht een prachtige gebeurtenis van het menselijk lichaam en het is zonde om dit voor lief te nemen. Bedank je lichaam voor het in ademen van de lucht om je heen en bedank de planten voor het filteren van deze lucht. Het is een groot systeem samen en daar kunnen we ongelooflijk dankbaar voor zijn. Het is een tool die we allemaal kunnen gebruiken en die als kern dient voor het hele lichaam. 

To be honest, I don’t know that yet, I think so but I don’t know for sure. The breath is very powerful and can achieve a lot in your body and that is what I love about it. It comes and goes and happens automatically. It just feels like it’s actually an extraordinary mechanism of various muscles, nerves, cells, and organs that together feed your entire body with oxygen. The more oxygen is in the body, the more energetic you feel and the calmer the body reacts to stress or anger. The breath is genuinely a wonderful event of the human body and it is a shame to take this for granted. Thank your body for breathing in the air around you and thank the plants for filtering this air. It is a large system together and we can be incredibly grateful for that. It is a tool that we can all use and that serves as the core for our entire body.

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Waar heb jij altijd controle over in je leven? Daarmee bedoel ik echt altijd. Of je nou in bed ligt, ziek bent, aan het sporten bent, werken, zoenen, zingen en ga zo maar door. Waar heb jij controle over? Ik laat je er nog even over na denken. 

There is something in your life which you always have control over. What is it? By that I really mean always. Whether you are in bed, sick, working out, working, kissing, singing etc. What do you have control over? I’ll let you think about it for a while.

Ik werk al een aantal jaren bij het bedrijf La Place als weekend hulp. Hier sta ik vooral in de spoel keuken en bij de kassa. Afgelopen weekend merkte ik iets in mezelf wat me al een poosje dwars zat als ik aan het werk was. Terwijl ik de laatste spullen opruimde van de dag merkte ik in mijn lichaam een onbalans. De dag was afgelopen maar ik voelde nog steeds een sterk gevoel van stress en spanning. Mijn ademhaling zat hoog in mijn borst en ik kon mijn handen niet meer stil houden. Toen ik even stil ging staan merkte ik dat mijn hart enorm snel klopte. Ik maakte mijn werk af en ging naar huis. Op de fiets merkte ik dat ik nog steeds niet rustig was. Mijn hart klopte in mijn keel, mijn borst voelde zwaar aan en ik bleef maar praten over onzinnige dingen tegen mijn vriendin. De werkdag was afgelopen maar toch bleef ik enorm onrustig. Waren het de koppen koffie die ik had gehad? Was het de drukte of was ik overprikkelt van alle mensen? Ik wist het niet en toen ik thuis was probeerde ik rustig te worden. Met een diepe zucht plofte ik op de bank met een glas water en keek wat tv. 

I have been working at La Place on the weekends now for a number of years. The main things I do are working in the kitchen and at the cash register. Last weekend I noticed something in myself that had been bothering me for a while when I was working. While I was cleaning up the last things of the day I noticed an imbalance in my body. The day was over but I still felt a strong sense of stress and tension. My breathing was shallow and high up in my chest and I could no longer keep my hands still. When I paused, I noticed that my heart was beating very fast. I finished work and went home. On the bike, I noticed that I couldn’t get myself calmed down. My heart was beating in my throat, my chest felt heavy and I kept talking about stupid things to my girlfriend. The working day was over but I still remained very stressed. Was it the cups of coffee I had? Was it the crowds or was I overwhelmed by all the people? I didn’t know and when I got home I tried to calm down. With a deep sigh, I sat down on the couch with a glass of water and watched some TV.

Het hielp niet. De onrust in mijn lichaam bleef aanhouden en het probleem werd niet opgelost. Misschien zou een lekkere warme douche helpen om me te kalmeren. Na het eten besloot ik daarom om te gaan douche, maar nog steeds geen resultaat. ‘Fucking hell word is rustig’ zei ik tegen mezelf. Natuurlijk werkt dit niet want dit is precies het tegenovergestelde van rustig worden. Dus probeerde ik maar rustig te worden door een klein kwartiertje te gaan mediteren. Alleen focussen op je gedachtes en ze elke keer weer los laten. Ook dat hielp niet, m’n hartslag bleef hoog en de gedachtes in mijn hoofd bleven ratelen. Ik raakte letterlijk overprikkeld door mezelf, en dat is behoorlijk knap want vaak gebeurd het door prikkels van buiten af. Mijn hoofd is soms enorm druk en denkt aan te veel dingen tegelijkertijd en dus dacht ik dat slapen voor nu de enige optie zou zijn. Wat kan het anders zijn. Al wist ik dat dit niet de eerste keer was. Bijna elk weekend heb ik dit na werk. Mijn hart voel ik in mijn keel bonken en mijn lichaam voelt gespannen en druk. Handen kan ik niet stil houden en de gedachtes die ik heb zijn negatief en springen elke 10 seconden over naar een ander onderwerp. 

It didn’t help. The restlessness and anxiety in my body continued and the problem was not solved. Maybe a nice hot shower would help me calm down. So after dinner, I decided to take a shower, but still no results. “Fucking hell calm down would you,” I told myself. Of course, this does not work it will only make the restlessness worse. So I tried to calm down by meditating for fifteen minutes. Just focus on your thoughts and let them go every time. That didn’t help either, my heartbeat remained high and the thoughts in my head kept rattling. I was literally overwhelmed by myself, and that is a special thing because most of the time it is caused through external stimuli. My head is sometimes very busy and I think of too many things at the same time. So, I thought sleeping for now would be the only option. What else can it be? Although I knew this was not the first time. Almost every weekend I get the same mental and physical reaction after work. I feel my heart beat in my throat and my body feels tense and busy. I can’t keep my hands still and the thoughts I have are negative and jump to a different subject every 10 seconds.

Zoals je al kan raden hielp het slapen ook niet. Hoe kan het dat mijn lichaam zelfs na het werken nog onrustig en druk was? Wat kan dat veroorzaken. De hele zondag probeerde ik wat meer op mijn ademhaling te letten maar doordat ik veel dingen te doen had lukte dit het grootste gedeelte van de dag niet. Tot vandaag en daarom upload ik mijn verhaal ook vandaag pas. Vandaag besefte ik mij iets wat mij grip deed krijgen op deze onrust in mijn lichaam. Iets wat er altijd is maar wat nooit langer duurt dan een paar seconden. Zonder dit kunnen we niet leven. Ademen dat is de oplossing voor dit probleem. Ademhalingstechnieken zijn de oplossing voor eigenlijk alles in je lichaam want het is een onderdeel van de benzine waarmee je je lichaam aandrijft. Zonder zuurstof kan je lichaam niet goed functioneren. Ademhaling is de key tot het kalmeren van je lichaam. Het is oprecht een prachtig iets om op te letten. Het beweegt zich van boven naar beneden in je lichaam en zoekt een weg naar buiten via je mond of neus. Tegelijkertijd zoekt het automatisch een weg naar binnen door diezelfde uitgang. Het is een ge-automatiseert systeem waar iedereen grip op kan krijgen. 

As you can guess, sleeping didn’t help either. How could it be possible that my body was still restless and busy even after working? What could have caused this to happen? For the rest of my Sunday, I tried to pay more attention to my breathing, but because I had a lot of things to do, it didn’t work for most of the day. Until today, that’s the reason why this week’s upload is not on a Sunday but on a Monday. Today I realized something that made me get a grip on this restlessness in my body. Something that is always there but that never lasts longer than a few seconds. We cannot live without this. Breathing is the solution to this problem. Breathing techniques are the solution for basically everything in your body because it is part of the gas that you use to power your body. Your body cannot function properly without oxygen. Breathing is the key to soothing your body. It is truly a wonderful thing to feel and simply be conscious of. It moves from top to bottom in your body and looks for a way out through your mouth or nose. At the same time, it automatically searches for a way in through the same exit. It is an automated system that everyone can get a grip on.

Wim Hof is een van de bekendste leraren of guru’s of het gebied van ademhaling. Je kent hem vast wel, de man die meer dan een uur in een ijsbad heeft gezeten zonder dat zijn lichaamstemperatuur daalde. De man die in shorts de Mount Everest beklom. Hij ja, een beer van een vent die een meester is in het besturen van zijn ademhaling. Hij kan de meest ongelofelijke dingen in zijn lichaam te bereiken door alleen verschillende manieren van ademhaling te gebruiken. Ik wilde dit ook eens proberen en daarom heb ik een hele simpele ademhalingstechniek geprobeerd. 30 keer diep in en uit ademen door de mond en na de 30ste uitademingen mijn adem vasthouden. Terwijl ik dit deed voelde ik mijn hele lichaam tintelen, ik werd een soort van high en kon vervolgens bijna 2.5 minuut mijn adem in houden. Toen ik dit drie keer achter elkaar had gedaan was mijn hart weer rustig. Het klopte op een normaal tempo en mijn ademhaling was van hoog in mijn borst gezakt naar laag in mijn buik. Is ademhaling dan echt de key om met alles om te gaan. 

Wim Hof ​​is one of the best-known teachers or gurus in the field of breath control. You probably know him, the man who has spent more than an hour in an ice bath without his body temperature dropping. The man who climbed Mount Everest in shorts. Yeah, that’s him, a magnificent man who is a master at controlling his breathing. He can achieve the most incredible things in his body by using nothing but different ways of breathing. I also wanted to try this and that is why I tried a very simple breathing technique. 30 deep breaths in and out through the mouth and hold my breath after the 30th exhalations. While I was doing this I felt my whole body tingling, I became kind of high and could hold my breath for almost 2.5 minutes. When I had done this three times in a row my heart was calm again. It was beating at a normal pace and my breathing had dropped from up high in my chest too low down in my stomach. Is breathing really the key to dealing with everything.

Heel eerlijk gezegd weet ik dat nog niet, ik denk het wel maar zeker weten nog niet. De adem is enorm krachtig en kan heel veel bereiken in je lichaam en dat is wat ik er zo mooi aan vind. Het komt en gaat en gebeurt automatisch. Het voelt gewoon terwijl het eigenlijk een buiten gewoon mechanisme is van verschillende spieren, zenuwen, cellen en organen die samen je hele lichaam voeden met zuurstof. Hoe meer zuurstof in het lichaam hoe energieker je je voelt en hoe rustiger het lichaam reageert op stress of boosheid. De adem is oprecht een prachtige gebeurtenis van het menselijk lichaam en het is zonde om dit voor lief te nemen. Bedank je lichaam voor het in ademen van de lucht om je heen en bedank de planten voor het filteren van deze lucht. Het is een groot systeem samen en daar kunnen we ongelooflijk dankbaar voor zijn. Het is een tool die we allemaal kunnen gebruiken en die als kern dient voor het hele lichaam. 

To be honest, I don’t know that yet, I think so but I don’t know for sure. The breath is very powerful and can achieve a lot in your body and that is what I love about it. It comes and goes and happens automatically. It just feels like it’s actually an extraordinary mechanism of various muscles, nerves, cells, and organs that together feed your entire body with oxygen. The more oxygen is in the body, the more energetic you feel and the calmer the body reacts to stress or anger. The breath is genuinely a wonderful event of the human body and it is a shame to take this for granted. Thank your body for breathing in the air around you and thank the plants for filtering this air. It is a large system together and we can be incredibly grateful for that. It is a tool that we can all use and that serves as the core for our entire body.

Beauty is everywhere

Zelfs in je ademhaling, iets wat zo normaal en natuurlijk is kun je iets prachtigs zien. Iets om dankbaar voor te zijn en iets waar je mee kunt samen werken om een vrolijker, blijer en gezonder leven te lijden. Het is er niet voor niks altijd, dus gebruik het daarom ook goed. 

Even in your breathing, something so normal and natural, you can see something beautiful. Something to be thankful for and something that you can work with to live a happier and healthier life. There’s a reason for it to always be present within you.